How to Give a Man Oral Sex Like a Pro (5 page)

Chapter Eight

The Not Quite End: How to Finish Him Off Right

After giving your man all of the stimulation that he can handle between handjobs, blowjobs, deep throating and all of the other various tips that this book has hopefully taught you, there is one final subject that needs to be touched upon and that is how to finish it all off. This chapter is solely dedicated to talking about something that a lot of women don’t feel comfortable with and that a lot of men have no idea how to bring it up. This is the moment that can either make it or break it. After a great bout of stimulation and making your man reach climax, you are faced with a pivotal choice – spit or swallow. 

The beauty about the female orgasm is that, for the most part, a woman doesn’t ejaculate when she climaxes. Yes, we all know about the female ejaculating orgasm but that takes some time to build up to and with the male orgasm, you should expect your man to ejaculate, even though sometimes he may not. Therefore, you need to figure out what step to take knowing that you are going to have to deal with ejaculation. This can be a nerve-wracking time for women because they know that the right thing to do is swallow but some women just can’t fathom doing so.

Of course, the sexy thing to do is to allow your man to come in your mouth and to swallow it all down. This makes him feel like you love his juices and that you love the taste. It is a massive turn on to him to imagine that you feel this way and for some women, it truly is the case. Some women do love the taste and don’t have a problem with it. It doesn’t make them feel sick to their stomachs and they can handle it. However, a lot of women can’t and it makes them feel queasy. This is not the time to feel queasy when your man is still in your mouth and you are already starting to feel like you are going to gag. You really don’t want to finish him off in the wrong way and leave a long lasting impression that isn’t going to make him weak in the knees or render him speechless. So the question remains then – do you spit or swallow?

For the women who know that they can handle it and that don’t have a problem with it, kudos to you. You have what it takes to finish your man off right and to make him swoon for you. For the women who have never had ejaculate in their mouth before, let me give you a bit of a rundown on what it is like. Your first question is definitely going to be taste so here it is: it is salty – that’s it. The way your man’s ejaculate tastes is all dependent upon his diet. If he had a big steak dinner, a baked potato with all of the fixings and some asparagus on the side, you can expect that his ejaculate is going to have a funky taste to it. All of that red meat, fattiness and the acidic qualities of asparagus are going to give his body quite the odor and taste. This is when even the bravest of women might want to skip out on oral that night and go straight to sex because let’s face it, bad breath is much more bearable than bad come. That being said, what your man’s diet consists of can have a positive impact on the way he tastes. The biggest impact that we read about is when men eat sweet fruits such as pineapple. This gives his ejaculate a much sweeter taste, to the point where he will diminish the salty taste and give you something that is a bit sweeter. That sounds much more enjoyable, doesn’t it? So if you are contemplating swallowing, maybe serve up your man some sweet tasting fruit days or hours before.

The next biggest question women have is in regards to the texture of the ejaculate and naturally, of course, it is slimy. That is a given. Hopefully we have all at least seen what ejaculate looks like and it is easy to figure out that it has a slimy texture. However, when it is in your mouth and you are swallowing it, you don’t really get the texture so much. The taste is overpowering and what you focus on the most. As soon as your man finishes, you swallow right away and you practically never really feel the ejaculate down your throat. It just feels like you are swallowing your own saliva. Granted, if you are focused on it and you pay attention to it, you will feel it but when you are in the moment and you just gave your man a fantastic orgasm, I think the last thing you are going to be thinking about is the texture of his come.

Now, this is a given but I feel as though it should be touched upon anyways because there are some weird urban legends that go around and it’s best to just get it out of the way rather than keep it as the elephant in the room and beat around the bush. (Idiom central over here.) If you do decide to swallow your man’s ejaculate, please know that you cannot get pregnant from doing so. I know some women may think otherwise because they read some instance that isn’t true and yadda yadda but no, you cannot. You can only get pregnant if the sperm travels through the body via the vagina and reaches the end of the cervix and travels to an egg, fertilizes it and well you know the rest. Swallow away and swallow as often as you want because you aren’t getting pregnant from this method. There, now that’s out of the way…

If you know that swallowing just isn’t going to be your thing, and before you even dare to resort to spitting, I have another option for you that is just as sexy and one that your man will really enjoy. When you know that your man is close to orgasm, tell him that you want him to come all over you. Let him ejaculate on your breasts, on your back or, if you are really breaking the barrier, your face. Even though this sounds as though he is debasing you and that you are diminished to nothing more than a speck of dirt, it is not that way. In fact, you have even more power over him allowing him to do something like this to you. He knows that he should play it cool and not go overboard with it. He knows better. This is a fantasy for a lot of men but they never know how to go about talking about it so if you are the one to bring it up, it will take the pressure off of him. Making one of his fantasies come true and being able to finish him off right? Bonus!

It’s obvious that I have been tiptoeing around the subject of spitting and it is because I don’t think it is necessary. I have a firm belief that it is insulting to spit and offensive to your man. Think of it in these terms; say your man was going down on you and the situation was reversed and you were the one to ejaculate. Then, after you were done, your man left the room to go spit in the toilet and perhaps also rinse his mouth out or even brush his teeth. Then he came back to you to cuddle. His absence in that moment speaks volumes, even though it shouldn’t. It makes you feel like you did something wrong or that there is a part of you that he finds so repulsive, he has to leave the room to get rid of it. It would hurt your feelings and it would make you want to speak up and tell him that if he is just going to spit it out, he should not even bother doing it in the first place. It would make you feel pretty awful, right? Now imagine how he would feel after you just gave him the ride of his life and now you are rushing to the bathroom to spit something of his out. Although this is simply my opinion and you obviously don’t have to follow it, at least think about it before you ultimately decide to do it. You might change your mind as well. Remember, actions speak louder than words so no matter how hard to try to convince him that his taste isn’t offensive and that you just don’t want to swallow it, keep in mind the angle from which he is viewing this from. 

After you give your man an amazing handjob or a great blowjob or a blended stimulation orgasm, make sure that you finish it off in the right way so you do leave him speechless and completely satisfied. Don’t ruin the moment by running off and doing something that might force you both to butt heads later on.

I will say this though, if you are getting into a relationship with a man that you just met or you are giving a blowjob to somebody that you don’t know very well, please do not swallow. This is for your own safety. I base this book upon women who are in relationships and who are with partners that they trust and that they have an idea of their sexual history. That way, you know your man is in good health and that you aren’t going to contract an STI or other infection. Oral sex in general can be dangerous, especially swallowing so it is best to hold off on any oral play until you know the man a bit better. Be sure that you are always staying safe and keeping your best interests at heart. You have to be your top priority.

Conclusion

Well, shy girl, there you have it; another guide complete and another topic you can perfect. Hopefully this book has brought you some comfort in the topics of handjobs and blowjobs and you now feel a lot more comfortable performing each of these acts on your man. Hopefully now you feel like you are capable of bringing him amazing pleasure and total satisfaction in the bedroom, all from using just your two hands and your mouth. Most of all, hopefully these small tips and tricks help you out personally, to not only become a more confident and sexual woman, but for your man to reciprocate as well.

Sometimes, men can be oblivious in the bedroom and they are more often to give pleasure after they receive it themselves. If you are craving and dying for him to go down on you and for him to give you the stimulation that you want, you may have to make a move first and show him the goods before he is willing to do the same to you. If you want your man to reciprocate and to give you the pleasure that you give to him, you might need to be the one to make the initiative and first step. Please keep in mind, your pleasure is just as important as his. Even though you might be able to give him something that he has never had before, that will bring you some satisfaction in knowing that you can do that for him but at the same time, it is nice to feel that pleasure within your own body. If you aren’t getting yours too, then something needs to change.

If your sex life was lacking before and you and your partner needed a reconnect, hopefully this book helped you to get that back on track. Sometimes, we all need a refresher course to brush up on our skills or to bump them up to the next level. Also, sometimes we need a little push in the right direction to get everything back to the way it was. If this was the case for you, hopefully this book helped you to be able and more importantly, to want to touch your man in a way that brought him pleasure so he would do the same to you. It’s important for you two to reconnect when times are tough and to work things out.

It’s natural for our sex lives to take a dip and we need to make sure that we are on top of it and that we fix it immediately. Sex is such an important and vital part of a relationship; it is what separates us from friends and lovers and what brings us close together. It is the time when we are able to connect on such a deep level and it makes us feel good. Touching your man to bring him to climax or to use your mouth to do so, creates a level of intimacy that sex cannot bring. It makes either party feel even more vulnerable than usual. Plus, it is a nice break from sex and forces you to do something else to him for once. It breaks routine and sometimes, we all need that.

It’s important that you not only know how to please your man in bed but that you feel comfortable doing so. It’s hard to sometimes feel confident or special in a world that is surrounded by what the ideal woman should be. We all know that we cannot compare to the women on TV and sometimes, men get caught up on that. It makes us feel insecure and we need to break the cycle. Know that you are a sexy woman and that you are capable of making any man’s body shake but that you are the only one your man wants for you to do that to him. You are the whole world in his eyes and you need to own that.

So take what you learned, pair it with your previous knowledge, and become the woman that you know you are inside. It will bring you great pleasure knowing that you are capable of giving your man something that he has never felt before or that he has been yearning to feel again. Work to keep your love life scorching hot but make sure that you are not the only one doing so. This is a two way street and you can hand out all of the handjobs to your man possible, but make sure you are getting something in return as well. You both need to keep up on your skills and make sure that you are working towards a common goal and keeping your love life red hot.

So, shy girl, I release you into the wild and into the mindset that you are one hot chick and that you can make your man shake. I hope this book has given you some great information and perhaps some that you have never read prior and if it hasn’t, I hope I at least made you giggle a few times and boosted that confidence level of yours. That’s what friends are for, right? Shitty advice and good laughs? (I’m trying to win here.)

Until we meet again.

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